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Why We Punish Ourselves
We created (or accepted) so many rules in our lives – rules about how we should behave, how we should be, what we should do, what we shouldn’t do … and so on – so many “should’s” in our life.
And it doesn’t matter where we got these rules from (parents, teachers, family, society, religious teachers, peers, bosses, etc.) whenever it is a rule that not following will lead to guilt, then it is a rule that we accepted in the first place and therefore made it our own. A rule that you didn’t accept (at least on a subconscious level) will not affect you (here I am talking about psychological rules – not legal rules).
So every time we sin (that means we don’t do something we should do or do something we shouldn’t do), we feel guilty and are longing for punishment. That’s right – punishment is a psychological need within us that we will insist on as long as we weren’t able to forgive ourselves.
Self-punishment is a subconscious means to remind us of our own continuous shortcoming.

Why We Punish Ourselves

We created (or accepted) so many rules in our lives – rules about how we should behave, how we should be, what we should do, what we shouldn’t do … and so on – so many “should’s” in our life.

And it doesn’t matter where we got these rules from (parents, teachers, family, society, religious teachers, peers, bosses, etc.) whenever it is a rule that not following will lead to guilt, then it is a rule that we accepted in the first place and therefore made it our own. A rule that you didn’t accept (at least on a subconscious level) will not affect you (here I am talking about psychological rules – not legal rules).

So every time we sin (that means we don’t do something we should do or do something we shouldn’t do), we feel guilty and are longing for punishment. That’s right – punishment is a psychological need within us that we will insist on as long as we weren’t able to forgive ourselves.

Self-punishment is a subconscious means to remind us of our own continuous shortcoming.

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Hurrahhh!! About time! the internet is not a safe place for someone in a triggered state to be surfing around in. The use of incredibly helpful monitored and controlled support group site and networks is over shadowed by the overwhelming availability and temptation to indulge in pro self-harm propaganda. #justsayin’

 

The rest of this week and next week will focus on taking these concepts from 2d to 3d, developing and trying out other things culminating with the outcomes going back to the professional now affiliated with the project for field testing and interviewees for user trials.  

The following week will focus on the 3rd avenue of concept work; the re-wiring the mind part. Culminating in the same way as the other two avenues. 

I’m hoping to work on both avenues on alternate weeks to keep things a bit fresher in my mind.

To the workshop! :) 

lifesigns:

Our new wristband and key rings will be available online in a few days.

You will be able to see them on the home page of www.lifesigns.org.uk

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1st of March is Self-harm awareness day. 

The bands are a good idea, great way of generating income as well as raising awareness. No worries about stigma attached to them. Never actually seen anyone wearing one though. 
The colour combination - to me- is horrible, they look mawkit! I thought self-harm propaganda was just orange.. where’s the purple come form.. 

Should certainly help move the project forward @mindcharity #endstigma (Taken with instagram)Best get stuck in. What exciting Saturday nights I have! 

Should certainly help move the project forward @mindcharity #endstigma (Taken with instagram)

Best get stuck in. What exciting Saturday nights I have! 

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E: maytree@maytree.org.uk

KIDS!! DON’T LISTEN TO THE BIT WHERE HE TRIES TO SELL YOU DRUGS!! I DON’T ENDORSE THAT SHIT

However this is the best explanation I’ve discovered so far…
Self-harm is used as the dissipation of the excess stress hormones, self-harm is proven to be an extremely effective method of reducing cortisol levels in individuals who self-harm through “hyper-stress”
See how it all fits together..

Why women are likely to self-harm

In an interesting theory that combines all three categories, Miller (1994) posits an explanation for why such a large majority of peep who self-harm are female. Women are not socialized to express violence externally and when confronted with the vast rage many self-injurers feel, women tend to vent on themselves. She quotes the feminist poet Adrienne Rich:

"Most women have not even been able to touchthis anger except to drive it inward like arusted nail.”

Miller says, “Men act out. Women act out by acting in.” Another reason fewer men self-injure may be that men are socialized in a way that makes repressing feelings the norm. Linehan’s (1993a) theory that self-harm results in part from chronic invalidation, from always being told that your feelings are bad or wrong or inappropriate, could explain the gender disparity in self-injury; men are generally brought up to hold emotion in.
 

http://selfharm.net/ 

How can I help myself?

The feelings of self-harm will go away after a while. If you can cope with your distress without self-harming for a time, it will get easier over the next few hours. You can:

  • Talk to someone – if you are on your own perhaps you could phone a friend. Telephone helplines are listed at the end of this leaflet.
  • If the person you are with is making you feel worse, go out.
  • Distract yourself by going out, listening to music, or by doing something harmless that interests you.
  • Relax and focus your mind on something pleasant – your very own personal comforting place.
  • Find another way to express your feelings such as squeezing ice cubes (which you can make with red juice to mimic blood if the sight of blood is important), or just drawing red lines on your skin.
  • Give yourself some ‘harmless pain’ - eat a hot chilli, or have a cold shower.
  • Focus your mind on positive things.
  • Be kind to yourself – allow yourself to do something harmless that you enjoy.
  • Write a diary or a letter, to explain what is happening to you – no one else needs to see it.

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